How Do I Know What to Do Next??
If you’re like most people, you might not even be sure WHAT you want to do next. Or what you can do. Or what you should do. It can be overwhelming and often that confusion can keep you mired where you are and feeling like you’re stuck.
But you’re not.
There are a number of things you can do that will help you to figure out where your compass should be pointed and you can do them right now while you’re still working.
Take an online personality test. Okay, I know this will seem a bit ‘woo woo’ for some people and I’m not saying that it’s the answer to the universe, but it’s proven to be a useful tool and at the least, a good place to start. A quick test like Myers-Briggs can point out some of the main aspects of your personality and is often used to help people choose a career, enhance relationships, and develop other skills. You can take the 10-minute quiz from my website here.
Make a list of things that you really like to do. It doesn’t matter if it feels like it’s relevant to a specific job - just make the list. Write down things you are passionate about doing and then find jobs online that match those skills. It’s more likely you’ll find something you will enjoy. You can use the list as keywords in a search of jobs on websites like Linked In or Glassdoor. You do, however want to keep in mind what you’re good at. If you LOVE dancing, but you move like Elaine from Seinfeld...you’ll want to think twice before looking for jobs as a backup dancer.
Internships and Volunteering. Both of these activities are great for building contacts, learning company culture and getting to try out a job or industry and see how you like it. Scheduling is typically quite flexible as well, so you can continue your current work and schedule around it. Company websites as well as their Linked In pages will have information about their internships and volunteering opportunities, but don’t be afraid to simply call or email a company that interests you. One of my previous companies didn’t have anything listed about internships, but we certainly welcomed them frequently.
Talk to your clients. I know this won’t work for all sex work providers, but some of you do have opportunities to speak in person with people from all walks of life and you may have a rapport that will allow you to ask about their profession. People do looove to talk about themselves and if you’re trying to get to the VIP Room, expressing interest in what they do can be part of the ego stroke, as you well know. You’re not trying to get job leads, just some ideas about what they do and if it might be a potential direction for you.
Consider a new business. As a sex worker, you’re very much in business for yourself, regardless of whether you work with an agency, brothel, etc. Chances are, you enjoy the flexibility of making your own schedule and taking time off when you need/want to. Owning your own business will allow you to enjoy those same benefits - not to say startups are easy, but there are major advantages to being your own boss. The internet is full of information on starting a business and support resources once you’ve begun. If you’re craving a change, but a typical 9-5 isn’t for you, entrepreneurship may be a good option.
In all, the path to a new career will likely not be linear and you may have to change paths along the way. However, if you have some solid ideas upfront on what you like and don’t like, and where your proficiencies lie, you have a much better chance of ending up with something you’re happy with.